This mini educomic is for nonbinary folx and the people that love them! Each issue has a different topic that can help cisgender people make navigating a binary world just a little better for nonbinary people. If you’re having difficulty reading, check it out online on Tapas. To help fund this work, become a patron on our Patreon page.
Issue Topic 13: Tips for Practicing Using Affirming Pronouns
In one of my nonprofit Facebook groups, someone asked for advice on switching their habits and using someone’s affirming pronouns. First of all, I love that question and that it was asked in this space where normally cisgender people argue against “having to” use affirming pronouns. It’s also a great question that I’ll answer here.
Issue Topic 12: How to Affirm People with Multiple Pronouns
When nonbinary people (and others) use multiple pronouns, they often don’t get fully affirmed. Cisgender people usually end up defaulting to (especially) binary ones. This educomic will illustrate the more affirming way to acknowledge people with multiple pronouns.
Issue Topic 11: How to Use Pronouns in an Affirming Way
Too often, when nonbinary people tell others their pronouns, people do one of two things: they change the way they converse to avoid using pronouns altogether or they use the affirming pronouns in a way that is awkward or othering. This educomic will illustrate how to use pronouns in an affirming way.
Issue Topic 10: Being Transgender is NOT Like Being “Transracial”
In a nonprofit Facebook group for people of color, a question popped up without context and it made me feel sick to my stomach. It read “Any good resources on why being transgendered [sic] is not like someone claiming to be ‘transracial’?” This isn’t the first time I’ve seen this argument used to delegitimize my identity, but it was the first time in a space for people of color for me. I’m going to attempt to illustrate the difference here in the hopes I won’t see that question again.
Issue Topic 9: Refusing to Affirm Pronouns is Like…
Too often, when nonbinary people affirm their identities, pronouns, or names, people react in ways that value their own comfort over our dignity. Pronouns are as important to affirm as our names, because they say who we are. To illustrate how silly (at best) and hostile (at worst) every argument made to justify using the wrong pronoun is, let’s reimagine the scenario using names.
Issue Topic 8: The Harm of the Deadname Guessing Game
When you ask a nonbinary or trans person what their “real” name is, you are telling them that you don’t think their affirming name is legitimate. This can feel like you don’t think they are legitimate. Here are three times recently where I was exposed to this behavior and what it felt like was happening.
Issue Topic 7: Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria is a FART Myth
This little comic is going to attempt to show why the rhetoric of Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria is harmful and to explain to parents and therapists why it’s an anti-trans propaganda myth and isn’t a thing to worry about in their trans or nonbinary kids.
Issue Topic 6: Let Nonbinary People Tell Their Own Stories
This little comic is going to attempt to show why speaking for and telling nonbinary peoples’ stories is harmful. In the hopes that next time, people will allow nonbinary people to tell their own stories and will choose to amplify that message instead.
Issue Topic 5: Celebrate the Affirming Wins When They Happen
This little comic will discuss some of the wins we largely ignore and why we should be celebrating each and every one. Being nonbinary is a struggle some days, but some days we have things we could be celebrating, and we should! Also, if you aren’t nonbinary, gender nonconforming, or trans, you can still use this comic. Remind your friends who are to celebrate the wins and maybe even offer to help them do it!
Issue Topic 4: Have Patience More Than You Demand Patience
This little comic is going to attempt to help people see what it’s like to suffer constant misgendering and then constantly be told to have patience with others without receiving any patience in return. In the hopes it will inspire people to check on their nonbinary friends and family without this added harm.
Issue Topic 3: Why to Believe and Not Gatekeep Identity
This little comic is going to attempt to help those people visualize what it’s like to constantly be asked to qualify your identity to strangers, friends, and family. In the hopes it will inspire people to accept identity without doubt or this added harm.
Issue Topic 2: Why to Defer to Nonbinary People on Their Experiences
This little comic is going to attempt to help people visualize why it’s vitally important to trust the experiences of nonbinary people and why it is necessary to center on the lived experience of nonbinary people (not the opinion of someone who thought about it for a sec).
Issue Topic 1: Why to Use Affirming Pronouns
This little comic is going to attempt to help people visualize what it’s like to navigate a world that continually misgenders you.